Hirit Bata

Parang mommy lang...
I really should watch what I say cause chances are maririnig ko yun mula kay Yuro....

1.  Yuro said something that I did not understand so I asked "Ano?", akalain mong ang sinagot sa akin ay "wala, sabi ko maganda ikaw."

2.  Once, Yuro was talking and since I was doing something else, I just keep saying "oo"....ang sagot ni Yuro "oo ka nang oo diyan eh!"

3.   Yuro said "Mommy, halika lang"

       Me: wait lang (I was washing the dishes kasi)

       Yuro called me again, nung hindi pa rin ako lumapit, ang sagot niya..."Mommy, hindi ka ba susunod akin?"

ilang taon na lang, ilang taon na lang, makakatikim na ng batok sa akin itong bunso ko!


Tamang Paul
Eto ang mga proof na mana kay Paul ang mga anak ko ...nanalaytay sa dugo nila ang kapilosopohan...

1.  while Yuro was playing megablocks, he asked  "Mommy ano gusto mong gawin ko?"

      Ang sagot ko, "Kalabaw"

      when what I saw didn't look like a carabao to me, I asked "Ano yan?"

     Yuro said "Kalabaw. Di ba sabi mo kalabaw?"
      ba't kasi nagtanong pa ko eh....

2.  I was closing our gate when Yuro suddenly crossed the street.

     I ran after him and said "Yuro, hwag ka basta basta tatawid.  Eh kung masagasaan ka?"
     Yuro (nakangisi):  "E di patay.."
     kung di lang cute ang batang ito......

3.  While in the grocery kasama family, I realized na hindi ko na kailangang bumili ng sili.  Sabi ko" Ay, may bunga na pala yung tanim nating sili, di na ko bibili.  Maanghang kaya yun?"
     Sagot ni Yuan "syempre, sili eh!"
     at tumawa si Paul!


4.  Yuan while holding his Smart Cube toy said to his yaya "Ate, laro tayo nito."
      Sagot ng yaya "hindi ako marunong nyan eh"
      Sabi ni Yuan:  "kailangan smart ka dito kasi smart cube to eh."  
      no comment ang yaya.


5.  Habang pinapainom ko ng milk si Yuro, nagyaya siyang maglaro.  Dahil gusto kong ubusin nya muna ang milk nya, ang sabi ko: "Hindi ako makakalaro kasi hawak-hawak ko itong milk mo. "
     Sagot ni Yuro "e di ilagay mo dun sa table"
     hehe, wala akong lusot.
     

In 2010, I learned and realized that....

in no particular order...

• Reality bites and it hurts the most when you're left with no other choice but to accept it.
• Not all people are as nice/bad or as happy/sad as they seem.
• Sometimes, you won't get a second chance.
• Optimism gives hopes but too much of it can lead to procrastination and missed opportunities.
• I don't like having a maid but I need the help they provide.
• Rejection is still my biggest weakness and I better learn to handle it before it totally breaks me.
• We all get depressed sometimes and depending on how you use it, Facebook can lessen or aggravate that depression.
• In motherhood, giving up is never an option.  And these days, keeping your family together is a big accomplishment.
• Sometimes, it's best to just not care at all.
• It's all a matter of perspective and inspirations are everywhere. 
• There's the terrible twos but there are also more terrible threes and hard-headed eights. hehehe
• Kahit gaano ka-pasaway ang kids (and hubby na rin hehehe), at the end of the day  you'll appreciate them as your greatest blessing.  "At the end of the day" means pag tulog na sila...hehehe, joke.
• masakit sa bulsa maging tanga at magastos maging malungkot.
• True friends never fail to brighten your days.
• There have been better days and there will be better days.
• Nothing beats living in the same house with your best friend. :)

looking forward to more of  life's lessons in 2011.  Happy New Year! :)

My year that was

in no particular order....


The Bad
The December Depression Ordeal.
Failed Marriages/Failed Relationships (not mine, thank God)
Yuan still doesn't or can't complete his notes.
Yuro's whining has become worse.

The Neutral
Looked forward to 5 weddings, ended up attending only 2.
No yaya for 8 out of 12 months - loved the privacy but tired of household work.
Facebook time
Yuan's satisfactory school grades.
First time to vote but Noynoy won...hehehe

The Best
Generally, good health for my whole family.
Our family getaways in and out of town.
Everyday bonding with my boys...or should I say every minute, kasi wala naman akong yaya halos the whole year, hehe
Yuro's milestones - daytime potty trained and weaned from bottle feeding
Another milestone for Yuan- First Communion
A different Christmas celebration
Kitakits with friends

Dates and private moments with Paul

I've had better years but I'm still very thankful for all our blessings this past year.
To family and friends who have been part of my 2010, thank you so much for the memories.
Happy New Year! May this year be a better one for all of us. :)

Tao Lang

 I hit my lowest.  I cried the most tears I've ever cried in my whole life.  If I had any consolation, it was that this happened during Yuan's exams week and Christmas week.  At least, I was busy. But tears would fall every time I'm alone and had nothing to do. I reached my limits in sadness, tolerance, patience and disappointments.  I knew it was building up and this month little Miss "Okay lang" broke down.  Suddenly, nothing seemed to be "okay lang" anymore.  It's like I've been slapped with the realities of life - my misses, my faults, my flaws, my too much assumptions.  I felt rejected, under appreciated, tired, lonely, sad, depressed.  I felt I was a failure in so many ways. I lost my self-esteem.

But God is good and Paul was with me throughout the ordeal.  I haven't fully recovered, but I've stopped crying and I'm hopeful that I will be better-than-okay soon...:)

R.S.V.P.

Scenario 1:  Dineadma ang invite. Kakaloka di ba? Importante sa yo yung tao kaya mo nga ininvite eh, kasi gusto mong makasama siya sa special occasion mo, tapos deadma lang? Ni hindi man lang nagsabi kung natanggap ba nya ang email/text or hindi.  Magfollow-up ka after a few days, sasabihin hindi siya makapunta.  Kakairita!  Ganun ka-importante kailangang ifollow-up?!  Isa lang ibig sabihin nyan, the receiver doesn't care....hay.

Scenario 2: "Titingnan ko".   I usually send out invites at least two weeks before so friends could mark their calendars early and minsan nakakatampo rin when the answer would be "titingnan ko" which would end up as "cannot make it" a few days before the event.  Ang ibig sabihin nyan, nung nareceive ang invite mo, free pa siya pero baka may event na mas importante sa 'yo, dun siya pupunta!    In other words, secondary lang....  Nakakatampo kasi you gave importance to someone and yet hindi ka pala ganun kaimportante.... I love friends who say  "sure na yan ha, mark ko na calendar ko" or pagkatanggap ng invite kayang-kayang sumagot ng "sure, punta me" or "sorry, may plans na ako" or  wala bang ibang date?" (kung kitakits).

Scenario 3: Hindi ka nainvite.  Hehehe, as a guest, nakakatampo rin pag hindi ka nainvite....kasi ibig sabihin, you are not important enough to make it to the guest list.  Minsan nga, kahit alam mong hindi ka naman makakaattend, nakakatampo pa rin na hindi ka nainvite, lalo na kung yung iba nyong friends eh nainvite...kasi ibig sabihin, hindi ka kasing importante nung iba! hahaha! Of course, kung friend talaga ang turing mo sa host, you will understand, although may hurt pa rin.  hahaha!...hurt sa ego! hehehe   :)

Scenario 4: Nainvite ka pero ayaw mong mainvite.  Hehehe, eto ang other side nung scenario 1, so chances are, deadma ang react mo! hahaha!  Pero para mas effective, dapat magrespond ka na lang after the event, sabihin mo, nun mo lang nabasa with matching "sayang!" hahaha! joke.  Bad yun, be honest, sabihin mong may plans ka na, kahit wala pa! hehehe, joke lang uli. Ang importante, respond promptly and in a polite manner.  :)

Anyway, sa lahat ng scenarios na 'yan ang bottomline eh, feeling feeling lang 'yan.  Kung ayaw mong mahurt ang feelings mo, hwag kang magpaka-feeling.  Kailangang tanggapin na hindi porke't importante sa atin ang isang tao eh importante na rin tayo sa kanila. Ang maganda sa invitation scenarios eh somehow we realize kung ano tayo dun sa taong iniinvite/nag-iinvite sa atin.  Remember the walang kamatayang quote na: “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”....Ang problema ko,  ako ay isa sa maraming ngok-ngok na hanggang ngayon ay hindi makasunod sa advice na iyan....hay....